hang on to my ego
Sep. 4th, 2005 08:16 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
I seem to think that everyone should be more like me in many ways. People should definitely not be like me in that i'm a master procrastinator, or that i can be quickly irritated. But i do seem to be in love with my attitude towards the world and my fellow man, and perhaps even with my rationalization skills, which i feel are well-developed and not cheap or shoddy.
I've come a far way from the uncertainty i felt about myself at a younger age, even as i realized the burgeoning ability and potential within me. I think that a lot of it has come as i move away from extreme opinions; as a child i was (rather inexplicably) a rabid male chauvinist, as a teenager i was very patriotic and went to college under the impression i wanted to join the Air Force ROTC, as a collegian i engaged in frothy, militant atheism. Everything was of dire importance and urgency.
Nowadays, i pride myself on my moderation, even though 'moderation' is clearly a matter of opinion. I like to think things through, even though i sometimes lack the time (and, sadly, occasionally the inclination) to give the matter at hand a good enough shake to satisfy my own sense of proper research. I fake things often; as a result, i've realized that i've become a rather competent faker. I don't do it out of malice (well, maybe a teeny tiny bit), and i don't even think it's laziness; it's a matter of priorities. Frankly, why should i devote hours of research into a topic that isn't either a hobby or a profession?
Ahh, but how many hours of research DO i devote to topics that are germane to my hobbies or my profession? Not enough; remember, i'm a master procrastinator. We're back to faking; i feel like i am faking my way through my job and my favorite pasttimes. In my userinfo's bio, i say that i have a singular devotion, and even there i feel i could do better, although i am certain that being a husband is the one aspect where i do my best job. And i suspect that this is the case only because it comes so naturally to me, and therefore the lion's share of credit should go to Kim.
Therefore, when i think people should be more like me, i'm probably trying to fake myself out. And i think i'm succeeding. BOW DOWN! OBEY ME! That is all.
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Date: 2005-09-05 01:40 pm (UTC)I grew up priding myself on my moderation, and now I get into paroxysms of worry that maybe moderation is a sin and I should have been some kind of revolutionary fanatic all along. I think it's the closest thing an overeducated nerd-slacker of my generation gets to a midlife crisis.
I was talking about the Impostor Complex to a friend and he said he thought it was almost universal among people in skilled professions. We all figure we're just faking it and we'll be found out at any moment.
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Date: 2005-09-05 01:44 pm (UTC)HAW! HAW!
See, you both should be more like ME, not rone.
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Date: 2005-09-06 06:35 am (UTC)I've heard this idea many times; it gets force fed to us as medical students, that it's "normal" to feel this way.
But I've never felt this way, and in fact for the last few years I've felt fairly confident that my patients are getting a fair, or more-than-fair shake. Truly, though, I have spent all my effort in the past 10 years towards being a better doctor, for them.
But still, I don't really understand this impostor complex. Just relax and do what you know how to do and if it comes to pass that you don't know how to do what your heart tells you you ought to be doing, learn how to do it. How hard could that be?
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Date: 2005-09-08 11:28 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-09-05 02:02 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-09-05 02:09 pm (UTC)bigote bajo tu nariz
Date: 2005-09-07 01:31 am (UTC)Faking
Date: 2005-09-05 10:31 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-09-08 11:22 pm (UTC)I think it's only natural
Date: 2005-09-06 02:33 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-09-06 04:31 pm (UTC)Not saying, however, that anyone is more right than the next guy. Except for me, of course.