As a parent, can I just say that I hate it when other parents don't attend their kids in coffee shops, or lets their kids yell in the minivan when we're getting a lift with them? 'Cause I do. Eleanor goes over to make friends and then starts acting up with the other kids, like Lord of the Flies or something. If all the parents don't agree that the behavior is obnoxious, the kids will go into lowest bottom denominator behavior.